Quarreling is good for couples!! O_o?

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Nope.. i am not trying to be funny!! Again from e newspaper.. i saw this article about how quarelling can be good.. and yea i agree! but b4 we jump to anything.. apparently some grounds rules must be laid out regarding to quarrels! lazy to find tat newspaper.. forgot which one also.. erm.. how to say.. i took some of e ideas and added my own!! HAHAHA

1st.. Stick to the topic! (it means that u are not to bring out things that are irrelevant and try not
to bring out past experiences) This will only make it worse..

2nd.. Dun point fingers and try not to find faults! then how to settle? lol... compromise lo.. well
who should? erm.. both.. duh..
As to who should initate it.. guys first ba.. well from experience.. i feel tat women have a
harder time not sulking after the quarrle than us guys.. in other words.. they tend not to
let go as easily..( NOTE: I AM SURE this applies to GUYS as well.. but mostly gals yea!!
no offence!)

3rd.. In the event things start to get heated.. Stop.. take a breather and then.. CONTINUE LA..
if more than two breathers are needed.. i suggest.. u wait till night.. or ample time to reflect
and then try to compromise..

4th.. TRY NOT TO GET A THIRD PARTY.. cus the person will have to pick a side wun they..
unless they are able to be just.. which will be very hard.. lol (People will defend themselves)
So.. the stories wun be accurate now.. will they?

lol... well after u quarrel finish.. dun sulk over it too much yea.. i mean its over alr isnt it? unless u are trying to start another one.. or intend to make ur partner feel guilty or what not.. how long then?
How i noe.. YOU be ur own judge! dun to silly things during a simple argument ya.. like wat have u.. break ups.. not speaking to each other.. or having a pause.. it only inflicts more pain.. well if tats what u want.. wat can i say..


side tracking..
LOL.. thinking about it..when i was younger.. quarrels between me and my mom lasts for 4-5 hours.. lol.. one quarrel usually have.. lets see.. 5 TOPICS!!!
ZOMG?
After tat.. she will sulk for like.. forever.. which is so irritating.. cus.. she wun speak to me.. and will still speak to my sister.. which i saw as favouritism.. and yea.. we often brought out past topics and would blow up multiple times.. lol.. T_T

And i HATED it... when she ask my sister to be the judge.. and give references.. of course she will help my mom.. i mean its more logical.. isnt it.. Zz..

RAINBOW!

Ok.. now as to why it is good.. lol.. hope u still reading.. zz HAHAH long.. well during a quarrel. yea.. it sucks.. but u can learn alot about ur partner when u quarrel.. is the person Down-to-earth? Dominating? Unreasonable? Quick to anger? patient?

And after tat learn to deal with tat.. and at the same time try to change them.. well.. after a resonable time after the quarrel la.. If u film it down.. TAT Will be best! as in film the quarrel.. u will realise many many many things! have fun!! and well yea.. the best thing would be not to quarrel. just trying to make the best of everything!! weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee